Sunday, August 31, 2008

Apparently I'm Presidential Material

I'm sitting on the deck of an inn and cafe on a lovely Wednesday afternoon, eating lunch with my family. We're taking a break from visiting a great museum. As the kids chatter, I hear snippets of an interesting conversation behind me on the deck between three people. Were eavesdropping not so astoundingly impolite and uncouth, I would have listened harder. As I said, the snippets that did waft over were interesting, and I figured out quickly that two of the three were higher-ups in the local public radio station.

Almost through our lunch, I hear one of the women remark, "I'd sooner vote for that woman in the pink shirt over any of the mainstream candidates." The second woman catches my attention and says, "She's talking about you, you know."

And a fairly hilarious (to adults, not so much to kids) ten minutes ensued of friendly verbal volleys. Jokes were made about not having inhaled anything but salad, pretend coughs of shock, snarky comments about a certain candidate's wife (see here), observations about wanting power, and so on, with smatterings of truths about or political system tossed in for good measure.

Walking off the deck and back to the museum, two of the three were on their way, but the third, a friendly older gentleman, got to talking with us. He told us the names of one of the women, who happened to be the station manager for the radio station and had led the station from backwoods ho-hum to national award-winning excitement. He obviously had high respect for her.

Finally, we were all on our way, grins all around. Okay, maybe not on the kids.

When we arrived home this week, I looked up the radio station and made a small contribution to it. I also included a shout out to the two women in the comments section of the donation page that included the joke, "Counting on your support in 2012!"

Yesterday I received emails back from both women. One, the station manager, has promised to be my campaign manager. :-D

I'll let you all know when I file exploratory committee papers. (Snort!)

Friday, August 29, 2008

A Note to Americans Traveling Abroad

Whether you are 2 miles, 20 miles, 200 miles or 2000 miles from the US border, don't expect the locals to be chummy and warm when you wear shirts that read, "America: Better than all the Rest!" or similar "patriotic" slogans.

Just sayin'.

Thursday, August 28, 2008

No Good Vacation Goes Unpunished

As a friend of blaugustine's likes to say.

Some punishment is work-related. That I can handle.

Some punishment is family-related.

I just spoke with my sister for the first time since returning home. Trying to wrap my head around some family events.

And again I am reminded that I live 3000 miles away from them for a reason.

Sigh.

Vacation by Numbers

42.70188171657805, -73.11422824859619

42.61229612450321, -75.00263214111328

44.34195929184658, -76.05036735534668

(including 44.32900573504008, -76.16503715515137
44.29399840866365, -76.15224838256836
44.23794325434499, -76.0898494720459
44.344414619784324, -75.92265129089355
44.365710274141115, -75.95423698425293)

45.426407377512774, -75.70060729980469

46.42933871009928, -74.41520690917969
(including 46.209418049302556, -74.58017349243164)

45.5014442390623, -73.57659816741943

And finally, 44.352332351790416, -72.73893356323242

Yes, I am a geek.

If You Find Yourself in Montreal Looking for a Restaurant...

...try this place.

Yum.

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Five Rings

I don't know about you, but I get so anxious watching some of these competitions taking place half the world away.

Sunday, August 10, 2008

Did Someone Say Darwin?

We're a little frantic trying to pull ourselves together for vacation. This means my husband and I are running at a serious pace while trying to keep the kids in order. Not succeeding, it appears.

Three incredibly intelligent things my children (namely my boys) have done in the last 48 hours:

  • Leaning far out a window on the second floor of our house, over the driveway (which, given the garage is under the house means they were three levels up), trying to play catch with a friend in the driveway with a baseball.
  • C trying M's hands behind his back with rope on the beach, and pushing him face down into the sand. ("But he told me to!")
  • C and M playing "frisbee" with a plastic dinner plate, thus resulting in a plate to M's face - and a cut straight across the bridge of his nose.

Pass the wine, please.

Friday, August 08, 2008

Rhinoplasty

The other day I looked at all the statistics that come with the visit counter I've attached to this blog. It was eye-opening and slightly amusing.

Among the searches that brought people here over the last month:

  • nose ultrasensitivity
  • tongue tied small nose
  • small nose
  • hit in the nose now crooked
  • I have a really small nose
  • good looking people with crooked noses
  • does everybody have a crooked nose
  • nose crooked right
  • taking pictures of a crooked nose
  • small chin and crooked nose
  • please give me idea for getting nose in correct direction
  • fix crooked nose
  • I want a bigger nose than a small nose
  • crooked nose after breaking it
  • crooked nose at birth
  • my nose is a little crooked
  • why is my son's nose growing crooked
  • inside nose splitting
  • my 9 yr old got hit in the nose and it's crooked
  • crooked girl nose p*rn
  • I am disgusted by my husband's affair
  • small crooked peppers
  • crooked nose spell
  • crooked nose hot
  • dog crooked nose
  • happy pitcher
  • deborah harry nose
  • what is crooked bumper
  • crooked nose can't breath good
  • open face blueberry pie
  • photos of crooked noses
  • a nose that looks like a bum
  • meaning of crooked nose
  • catching chipmunks
  • new hair style for crooked nose
  • crooked nose in ultrasound
  • leaving christian science
  • fractured first metatarsal photo
  • resent my husband's job
  • what is happening to my crooked squash
  • my nose aches
  • poop nose
  • crooked noses corrected
  • how do you know if you have a crooked nose
  • my transition to smaller nose
  • small crooked nose (yes, my exact blog name)
  • costochondritis
Huh.

I mean, I knew people would be concerned with the appearances of noses, but I didn't really consider until now search terms and all that. At any rate, interesting.

Also, the stat counter notes location of persons visiting. Hello to:

  • Canada
  • Ireland
  • Slovenia
  • UK
  • Phillipines
  • India
  • Morocco
  • Australia
  • Sweden
  • Norway
  • Bahamas
  • Germany
  • Poland
Very interesting indeed.

So that prompts me to say...to all of you who find this place through a search engine: Welcome!

Wednesday, August 06, 2008

Small Annoyances

One of my favorite guilty pleasures is Project Runway. The bizarre challenges, the fabulous designs, the even more fabulous personalities, the snark - I love all of it.

This summer, Project Runway is on at 9PM. It used to be 10PM. Try as I might, I just can't get the house settled to sit and watch at 9PM. S is just to bed at that time, and I am trying to corral the boys. And the evening's episode isn't repeated until midnight. Sadly, I cannot stay up that late. Work and all.

It also used to be that the previous week's episode aired just before the new episode. Not anymore. I have no idea how I am going to catch up.

Not a big deal, especially the the grand scheme of things, but an annoyance.

Sigh.

Monday, August 04, 2008

Thursday, July 31, 2008

We saw it

Pantheist Mom and another friend and our husbands and kids and my nephew. We all saw it.

The last at bat in our team's uniform of a certain tantrum-prone future Hall of Famer. There were many, many camera flashes. I hoped he would swing hard and go out on a high note. Maybe he tried, maybe he didn't. He flied out to center.

I can't say I'm sad. As great a bat as he swings, he crossed that invisible line this year from the the light to the dark. He became a drain on the team's psyche as the antics increased. Heck, my four year old behaves more maturely that he has.

We knew they were trying hard to trade him. On games like last night's, typically he would have been done in the 8th or 9th, the outfield shuffled. But there he was in the top of the 9th, out there in front of the wall. One last time.

And it was time.

Good luck, Manny. Don't let the door hit you on the way out.

But, OH! The new guy! I always liked Canada. Mr. Bay, we are ready to embrace you and teach you what it means to be loved by an entire nation. It's like nothing you have ever known before.

Get ready, because we are...

UPDATE, THE NEXT MORNING: S has always had a soft spot for Manny. She has called him, "My hero!" and gets excited when he is up to bat. This morning C and I carefully told S about Manny being traded. She cried. Hard.

About 20 minutes later, after a donut, S said, "Mommy, Manny can still be my hero."

Yes, S, I guess he can.

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Sparklers



Saturday evening was one of those times at the beach that I am fairly certain my kids will remember.



Friends whom we have not seen in years came down to have dinner on the beach with us. That was great. At the same time, there was a little "reunion" of kids from S's preschool organized by a really fun mom. We parked near the reunion area so the kids S could see her friends while we saw our friends.



Later in the evening, our friends departed, but the preschool parents were hard-core. Several of us built fires (my husband recently acquired a very large wok that we use as our firepit) and we stayed until after 9PM chatting while the kids played with sparklers and danced to whatever music came on the radio. (There were also some fireworks, but the young yahoo assistant harbormaster shut that down. Don't think the rest of the town hasn't noticed the frequency with which he sets off fireworks. Drunk with power, that one.)

We let the boys put long sticks into our fire until the tips glowed, then they danced the sticks through the air until the ends burned out.



For all the crappy commuting and annoying small-town politics (and young yahoo assistant harbormasters drunk with power), this is why we live here. We're very lucky.

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Twist and Shout

A bit over an hour ago, a tornado warning was issued for my county.

Such a warning is rare. We don't live in tornado alley - far from it. But we have been in a strange weather pattern for the last week or so. This is the second tornado warning I can remember here. The last one was about five years ago and the suspect cell was about 1/2 mile from us. I was in one tornado warning when we lived in the south - that whole day is a story from another time.

My husband called me to let me know the warning had been issued. I'd just dropped C at sailing and didn't have the radio on. My husband is supposed to be sailing tonight, too, but I bet they are calling it off. A water spout was spotted about an hour away, and the line was headed straight for us. The news estimated it would reach us in 40 minutes.

After a frantic half hour of getting some things to the basement while following the storm on the news station, the storm weakened enough for the warning to be canceled. Meanwhile a neighbor whose son was also at sailing offered to go get them. Yes, please. And thank you. I'd already called down to the maritime school to verify that the kids were indeed off the water.

Last text message I sent to my husband was "Tornado warning canceled. Phew. Just flash flood and severe thunderstorm warnings now. Bring wine."

The thunderstorm cell is right over my town right now. I can hear the crackle of lightening intermingled with booms of thunder around my house. The rain is torrential. Hail possible.

There will be trees down. I hope we keep power. I think it's safe to assume the boys' summer league baseball games are canceled.

Even as I write this, the storm is easing. The sky is even lightening a little.

Monday, July 21, 2008

How to Cheer a Girl Up

Go see Mamma Mia! Loads of fun. You can't help but smile. Definitely going to get that on DVD for exercising.

Also, uploaded about 50 new images to Flickr. Click image over there on the left to see them all.

Monday, July 14, 2008

Speaking Up is Hard to Do

I went to church on Sunday morning for the first time since the first of June. I went because I knew that the rector, R, would not be there. We had a visiting priest – a benign older guy I’ve met before. He’s retired from parish work and now travels around the area doing supply work like this. His wife is also ordained and she’ll lead the service next week.

I realize I miss it. But what do I miss? I think I miss something that no longer exists. Things related to issues at the church continue to muddle along. Not particularly positively from my point of view.

Several weeks ago, I sent an email to the bishop. I didn’t tell him what my issues were, just that we needed help down here, and to listen to those others who have contacted him, that they are not alone in their concerns. Received a dismissive email back, as though he hadn’t really read my email. Lovely.

I decided to hold back pledges for a while. For a few weeks I mulled designating them to a specific fund, but I think I need to make a bigger statement. I’ll probably send the pledge amount to the diocese for a while, or to the food pantry or another group.

A couple weeks ago there was a women only goodbye party for the Christian Ed director. The issues with the rector were like the elephant in the room that no one was talking about. That was hard. In other ways, it was enlightening. I’d say the majority of women are not thrilled with how things are going (although the hostess is the only supporter I know), but convincing people to speak up is difficult. It’s easier to walk away, or actively ignore the issues. After all, we don’t go to church to be negative. We go looking for the positive. To speak up negatively about church related subjects feels somehow wrong. At any rate, I know the women I saw there were women I hadn’t seen in church in quite a while.

I saw a woman who was on the search committee at another gathering about a week later. (Coincidentally, this was the woman who ran for school committee this year and lost.) She tried to convince me that the Christian Ed director leaving as she did was planned “all along” and I had “absolutely no reason” to be upset or surprised. Um, no. If she had been in church more than one or two times since Christmas she might know better – or even just talked to the Christian Ed director. While on the search committee, this woman was the biggest champion for R getting the job, so in some ways, she’s trying to save face. I think she would do better to look inward and examine why she has been avoiding church for months now. Unlikely.

The junior warden of the church called. He said he heard I had spoken with R (from R). I told him the suggestions I made to R. CC acted like he was surprised to hear I had made suggestions, but that he thought they were good ones. Sounds like R dismissed the suggestions when I made them. Perhaps they will carry more weight if they come from CC. More on that in a moment.

CC said the bishop came down for a meeting with R, and also attended by himself and a couple others, and that the result was that things seemed to be okay, but they’d keep in contact. Excuse me? That floored me.

CC also said attendance numbers weren’t down all that much – only 11% at the 10AM service. I found this hard to believe and asked for details on the numbers. The numbers he has have no granularity; it’s everyone in the building during service times. I countered that such a number is skewed: he needs to be able to look at pew numbers vs. Sunday school numbers vs. choir numbers and so on. The numbers in choir and Sunday school teachers have remained relatively stable because we make commitments on a yearly basis to the choir director and/or Christian Ed director. I suspect these numbers will be down more in September (at the moment I know no one willing to commit to teach this coming year – even though the job description on the Web for the Christian Ed position declares a “solid” base of volunteers), and we need be able to see what is happening where. C said he’d bring that suggestion to the vestry meeting last week, but I know for a fact he did not. Still there’s plenty –and I mean plenty - of space in the pews.

About ten days ago, the church newsletter came out. The opening letter from the rector was about change versus growth. How people say they want change, but really need to look inward and grow personally.

Well, now.

I tried to think on that outside the context of what I know is happening. It was hard. Yes, looking inward and growing is a good thing, preferable to change for the sake of change. But…

I was not the only one who read this and felt that, once again, he is not taking any responsibility for what is happening. That he thinks it is not him who needs to a change, but us who need to grow.

(My husband, of course, did an excellent job of skewering that message while we were preparing for my sister’s arrival. I said we needed to change the sheets on the guest bed and he responded asking whether we really needed to change them, or should we look inward to grow them instead. Har, har, har.)

Just a few days ago we received a postcard mailing from the church reminding us to keep pledges up-to-date during the summer months. The most interesting thing to me was the label. It was addressed to my husband only. For the entire time we have been at the church, every single mailing has come to my name and his name last name. For something to come to just my husband was odd, particularly because he’s been three times in the last year, and I’m the one involved. I am the one who manages household bills and makes the decision about how much we pledge. I made a couple of phone calls. There were more than a few perturbed women out there in town. Turns out all the mailings went to the men only.

Let me repeat that.

Men only.

I think we have a sexism issue on our hands. (Amid everything else.) I’m not trying to be alarmist here or create more trouble where there is none. A pattern is emerging. Intentional or not.

I tried to deny it myself. I don’t want this to be an issue on top of everything. I didn’t really even occur to me until I read this piece about women and the church. Rather women AS the church. The article is about the greater church, but well worth considering on a local level.

Our church leadership may be mostly male, but women are the core. We’re the ones who typically drive taking the kids to church, being a part of the community. We teach Sunday school, keep the prayer chain going, feed one another, literally and figuratively, run all but one of the volunteer and outreach efforts. Yet our voices are not heard when there is a problem.

The women of our church are, very clearly to me, being dismissed. It’s been all women who have spoken up so far. Suggestions we make are overlooked. I will bet that if – IF- the (male) junior warden makes the same suggestions I made to R, they will be acted upon. Because they come from a man more than anything. The meeting between the bishop and the rector and the others was all men, and, hey, apparently things are fine. And when it comes to pledges, talk to the man of the house because, clearly, women have no decision making power there.

So back to church on Sunday. After the service, feeling like I have nothing to lose, I approached CC, the junior warden. I let him know that 1) was there because R was not, 2) the message in the newsletter was extremely telling, and 3) if he continued to allow church leadership to marginalize the women of the church, even in the most seemingly benign ways such as omitting women’s names from mailings, he would be able to watch the church totally disintegrate beyond repair.

Whether or not he heard me, I said it. I’m glad I did. Ironically, it was immediately after a sermon about hearing.

Tuesday, July 08, 2008

Weather

Sometimes the weather one direction is vastly different from weather in the other direction.

About ten days ago, dinner on the beach looked like this:



Click to enlarge.

Deep Breaths, Fourth of July, Garden, Kittens

My sister, her husband, and their youngest son are visiting. They are staying with us.

As I said to a friend on Saturday night, I prefer to have this side of the continent to myself. For scrawny woman with an eating disorder, she sure takes up a lot of space and requires an immense amount of energy.

Deep breaths, deep breaths.

I had fun taking photos of fireworks on Friday night.



I had even more fun when I took these photos on Saturday at the town beach party and bonfire. These photos have not been through any manipulation software - it's just what came out. Pretty funky, huh?



S and her daddy walk toward the bonfire.



Garden is finally blooming. The hydrangeas are really late, though. I have no idea why.



The kittens continue to be lots of fun.



When my sister is gone, I get a good nap and a morning at the beach, I hope to be more articulate.

Tuesday, July 01, 2008

A**holes in America

So I popped over to the local big box home improvement store at lunch today to try to find a specific florescent light bulb for the fan/light in the bathroom. Just as I exited my car, a stumbled ever so slightly as I checked to be sure that yes, I had my specifications and my keys and my phone. It wasn’t even enough of a stumble to make me think, “Gosh, I hope no one was looking!” Thirty seconds later, I barely remembered it.

As I walked through the big orange doors, a man says to me, “Have a nice trip?”

I looked at him quizzically.

He said it again, “Have a nice trip?”

I was just about to say that he must have me confused with someone else when he added, “I saw you trip in the parking lot.” Then he chuckled and walked away.

I was stunned. My jaw was open a little as I tried to remember. Then, oh, yeah, I guess I did trip a little.

But then my mind quickly went to this thought: A**hole.

I went to find my lightbulb, but kept an eye out lest that beautiful specimen of humanity end up in my aisle.

I still can’t really believe it. It’s almost surreal. That an adult (notice I didn’t say grown-up) would go out of his way to say something like that to a complete stranger is beyond me.

I'll bet he was a bully in high school.

Ick.

Saturday, June 28, 2008

It's good to hear your voice, you know it's been so long

There’s this music venue a couple of towns north of us smack in the middle of a residential neighborhood. It’s open in the summer only and it’s literally a tent, albeit a highly specialized kind of tent. The stage rotates. There is a sister venue of similar type about 40 miles from here.

Over the 20 years or so that I’ve lived in New England, I’ve been amused at the kinds of acts that play there. It always seemed to be “old people” music. I know that comment is full of ageism, but we’re talking crooners like my dad used to enjoy back in the day. “The day” being the 40s and 50s. So, you know, old people’s music. It was a running joke between my husband and myself. An act that would, sooner or later, play at the venue, was one to look down upon.

Over the last few years, the acts coming to the venue have been more and more interesting and/or amusing. There are still the crooner types, and now there are several tribute bands on the schedule, and some other “interesting” revues (Bowzer’s Original Doo-Wop Party). There are some kids programs, some comedians (we saw Lewis Black there, and some artists that you would be surprised to learn are still touring (Kenny Rogers). But there also are, occasionally, some decent acts. We saw Bruce Hornsby there a few years ago. The small setting made it a lot of fun. In terms of it being an “old person” place, it seems I am being put in my place. Or getting old. Or both.

Anyway, there are sill some acts that you just do not expect to see on the schedule, and we went to see one of those acts last Saturday night. We saw Blondie.

Yes, Blondie. Debbie Harry and Chris Stein and Clem Burke, and some new support musicians. No Jimmy Destri, no Gary Valentine. It’s been 30 years since Parallel Lines was released, and this was an anniversary tour.

(I never saw Blondie in their heyday. My hometown was not exactly a hot stop of cutting edge music, thought I did see everything I could that did come through. I found my old pile of concert tickets recently. I’ll have to write about them sometime.)

When I told our sitter where we were going, she was a little incredulous, both at the fact that they were still performing in one way or another, and where they were playing. We joked about how she also laughed at acts scheduled at this venue. Thing is, she’s young. She can still laugh.

When we drove up and parked, we were a little amused at the demographic. No, a lot amused. There were couples milling about that you would otherwise imagine by their appearances as garden club member, golf playing, grandparent retirees. Which they also may be. You never – never! – would have imagined some of these people to be punk aficionados back in the day. The earrings that matched the shirt in an easy care fabric would have been laughed down the street had they shown up at CBGBs! There were, of course, younger fans, and older fans that looked a little more hip. We were on the younger side of the crowd.

As we sat on the a bench outside the tent, having a glass of wine, we cracked many jokes. For example, how this crowd might be a good test market for cocktails made with nutritional beverages. Tequila shots with an Ensure chaser, or a “Booster” or “Resource Breezer” blender drinks with umbrellas. We joked about how, thirty years ago, we’re sure Debbie Harry never envisioned that people attending her concerts would look into their Talbots and Ann Taylor-filled closets for something to wear, much less intentionally shop there in anticipation (Guilty! I bought a blouse on sale there on Thursday evening with the concert in mind.)

Once inside the tent, we dutifully listened to the opening act (not bad), though again speculated on how they landed the gig. Was a member of the opening band an offspring of the main act (that’s happening a fair bit these days)? Were these musicians even born when Blondie first played? We later learned the answers were no (Clem Burke, however, had helped produce a recording of theirs) and yes (but not all, and not by much).

When it was time for the main event, it was lots of fun. The crowd, though not a sell-out, was really into it, even the garden-club grandparent retirees. Ms. Matching Earrings was rocking out.

Debbie Harry has still got it. At 63, that is no small feat. Yes, Debbie Harry is 63. She may look like a slightly lumpy older woman walking down the ramp to the stage, but she’s clearly a real woman and strong as ever. She still has stage presence. Her voice is just as strong and she can deliver a lyric (others around her age are losing their voices, even though they still record – think Carly Simon, who is only six days older than Debbie Harry). I could do worse than look like Debbie Harry when I’m 63, really. She looked like she was having a lot of fun.

Chris Stein was his usual quiet self, same look on his face, concentrating, doing his thing. Clem Burke has the arena-rock drummer moves, which is amusing in a band with Blondie’s edge. Spinning his drum sticks up in the air in the relatively small tent doesn’t have quite the same impact as in the larger venues.

We had a lot of fun. I’m glad we went. I was surprised how many lyrics I could remember.

Oh, and another benefit to the older crowd? Less rowdy behavior in the parking lot after the show, and a relatively orderly and quick departure from the parking lot. Back in the day, Blondie never would have imagined that, either.

Monday, June 23, 2008

Everyone is a Critic

C has been a real crab lately - angry and nasty and just really unpleasant. It's been stressful and hurtful and exhausting. I don't quite know what to do, but I'm doing my best to feel my way through it. It's hard.

My nephew has informed me that I'm much too hard on him, hold the kids to much too high a standard in general, am too strict, and my kids are going to hate me, and so on.

Lovely.